This Thanksgiving, did you sense that a certain relationship wasn't what it should be, or like you desire it to be? (I know many of you experienced this because of your comments to me.) This is very common during the holiday season when families get together. We are often tense and on edge, and might I add, a little tired, during this time of year and relationships are sometimes strained.
Most of us desire the ideal in our family relationships. We would like our families to be picture-perfect but many times, they are not. Why? Because families consist of flawed individuals, that includes you and me, and there in lies the problem.
One way to help in a not-so-perfect situation is to be the one with the good attitude. Also, be the one who is accepting of the ideas and ways of others. Our way of doing things is not necessarily the best way, and is certainly not the only way. Overlook the little slurs, the lack of respect, and continue to love the person and treat them with kindness. Oh, you may think they really don't deserve it, but I'm just saying if we continue to treat with kindness those who mistreat us, we will be the one who has peace. Try it. It works.
In the last part of Micah 7:6, the prophet states, "A man's enemies are the members of his own household." Many of you know this to be true, but it is sad. In Matthew 5:44, Jesus tells us to "Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you." This is what we must do in our strained relationships.
We must do what God commands us to do and then thank Him for His many blessings. If we focus on what we do have (the really good relationships), then what we do not have will be minimized. Remember to always seek direction from God for His will is "good and pleasing and perfect." (Romans 12:2)